Loving relationships can be hard. But no matter how hard they become, living without love is even harder. So we do the best we can, making some mistakes and trying to correct them along the way. If we’re lucky, we get to experience the joy of being loved and a human connection that lasts a lifetime. In other words, it’s worth it.
You may love your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, your kids, your family or your best friends. You give yourself without condition and enjoy what comes back in return. There seems to be one person, however, who is always the most difficult to love.
Do you love… you? It’s not a simple question.
I know I’m NOT lovable 24 hours a day. I have weaknesses, flaws and idiosyncrasies. I don’t always mean what I say or say what I mean. I do my best to give my time to others, but don’t always prioritize it right or make the necessary sacrifices to give all I can give when it matters. I don’t always look good, smell good, dress right or answer my email fast enough.
All that being said… I am able to love the best in me. I choose to focus on my positive traits, making the best of my God-given talents, and most importantly, forgiving myself for all that stuff I wrote in the last paragraph. I’ve accepted that I am not perfect, never will be, and it doesn’t matter. I can stand up and say that I am proud of who I am, and continue to look at the brightest bright side I can find in every life situation that comes before me.
Why? Because if you can love you, it opens the door wider for loving others. Dwelling on your faults and second-guessing your next move creates an energy-sucking layer of self-doubt that keeps you from your best. If you ask, you may discover that others actually do not care about your faults as much as you think they do.
Can you forgive your own rough exterior and focus in on the light radiating from your soul? Can you let go and let it shine for others to see?
My commitment for my remaining years on this planet is this – I’m letting myself go. Letting go to love others, to love myself, and to make a difference. Is there anything holding you back from letting go?
Can you love… you?
Note: I took this photo during my college photography class. It’s a three-faced porcelain dollhead reflecting in a mirror. You can make your doll Happy, Sad or Asleep by turning its head inside the bonnet. I loved the juxtaposition of expressions, with Happy being seen only through reflection. A pretty straightforward message, I think.