General stuff

The mental middle ground

Presidential election season is fun isn’t it? Our mostly two-sided party system divides our country almost neatly in half. Like medieval armies, both left and right have their absolute diehards who hang out at the edges of the battlefield shooting verbal arrows into the air at the other side. If you are convinced that one…

The edge of the board

Thirty cold, wet, white plastic stairs. You’re grasping the shiny chrome handrails, careful to hang on with each step up. As you rise higher in the air you get a whole new perspective on the landscape and your friends on the concrete pool deck below.  You’ve seen others go off the public pool high dive,…

Why I don’t swear

A couple of friends recently remarked about how they never hear me swear (you know… the F-bomb, S-bomb, A-hole… words that so many use to punctuate their moments of extreme anger, frustration or joy.) I don’t judge anyone else for saying whatever they want to say, but I’m feeling the need to explain why I…

The World

Age 10: “The world revolves around me.” Age 20: “I want to change the world.” Age 30: “The world is more complicated than I thought.” Age 40: “Maybe I’ll just change my own world.” Age 50: “The world is a pretty cool place.”

In Vulnerabillity

I never really identified with Superman. I loved Marvel’s universe of heroes instead because they had flaws and real problems that I could relate to. Superman was super everything, with powers and abilities far beyond those of mortal boys like me. You could weaken him with Kryptonite, but come on… those space rocks just weren’t…

Joy and pain

These are basic human instincts – to maximize joy and minimize pain. It sounds very simple when you say it out loud, but it is not simple at all. For example, is it OK to maximize your joy if it causes pain to others in the process? Is it possible to avoid working through pain…